21 August 2009

How Do You Relate?

Knowing how you relate to things and how your children relate to things can be what makes or breaks your relationship. It can be very hard to understand why your Kinesthetic child never seems to hear you if you are Auditory. It can be difficult to know why you child wants to listen to music all the time when you are a Visual. Do you even know what these relating styles are? Let's explore them a bit..

Being a Visual relater can seem fairly obvious. These are the people that relate best to what they see. They do well with pictures, and the written word. When they speak you will hear them say things such as, " Do you see what I mean?" "It seems clear to me." Visual relaters tend to be more uptight, high-strung, and very detail oriented. The visual oriented person will often get lost in thoughts and daydreams. They are the ones that seem to watch your body language as much, if not more, than listening to you.

An Auditory relater will hear what you are saying long before they see the whole picture! Okay, that was bad, but you get the point. You can reach Auditory relaters better with sound.. they will really get into music and will often learn best whatever is set to music, or if there is music playing in the background. An Auditory person will respond to criticism better if you can find something positive to say first. They love to talk to people and need to hear your thoughts and feelings. Their language will consist of things such as, "Do you hear what I am saying?" "Hear me out." "I can tell by your tone.."

Although the most common relating styles are Visual and Auditory, we can't forget to mention Kinesthetic relaters. These people will be touched to be noticed! (I know, I know!) Kinesthetic relaters are your touchy, feely people. They love hugs, and to hold your hand. These are the children that will always be in your lap! Kinesthetic relaters can often be harder to relate to because they never seem to listen.. A gentle touch of their shoulder will get those ears working again though! They like to learn through doing, and feeling their way through things. They will tell you that they are Kinesthetic by using language such as, "I can handle it." "I feel like we really made progress."

Understanding how you, your children, and everyone else relates to things can make all the relationships much better. It can also help you know how to present new material to your children.. Kinesthetic children will respond better to that science experiment at the kitchen table than reading about it. Visual learners will love the books and movies from the library. Auditory children, will be grateful for those audiobooks that you added to their mp3 player. Have fun exploring your world from this new perspective!

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